Anybody But Me….

Taking Giant Steps Even When You Feel Inadequate

Why do we feel this limiting sense of inadequacy? Why does the thought of launching out and doing all God has for us to do seem so daunting and nerve racking? Here are some very common reasons:

  • Memories of too many failed attempts.
  • Fear of criticisms and rejection.
  • Unwillingness to put in the necessary effort.
  • Not feeling good enough or worthy enough.
  • The vision seems so big, it’s scary.
  • Comfortable with the familiar and unwilling to do something new.

This list is by no means exhaustive and I’m sure we can all relate but none of these reasons are valid enough to stop us except we allow them to.

The nudge in your heart to obey God’s call may be suppressed but it never goes away. So how do you go forward to conquer when you’re weighed down by so many issues?

The key is to not look down on yourself but to see yourself as God sees you. How can you call yourself unworthy when God sent His son to die for you? It doesn’t matter the number of rejections have come your way, He has accepted you and welcomed you to the family. You are His, God has called you so it means He knows you can do it. Start believing in yourself because God believes in you. Besides it’s not about your strength, it’s about making yourself available to be used of Him. Trusting Him day by day to express His purpose through you.

Secondly, you need to take charge of your thoughts. Next time you are bombarded with self limiting thoughts, break the flow by speaking God’s promises out loud. Anytime you do this, you’re not only putting a stop to unhealthy thought patterns, you’re also ministering life to yourself because God’s word is life. Joyce Meyer put it this way, “Think about what you’re thinking about. ” Thoughts affect our emotions which automatically affect our actions. The Bible is filled with scriptures about the power of uplifting thoughts, meditate on them and let them be your truth. Let me share some of these scriptures with you :

Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ- 2Corinthians 10: 5

Do not confirm to the pattern of this world but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is – His good, pleasing and perfect will. Romans 12: 2

For God hath not given us the spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind. 2 Timothy 1: 7

God sees your potential even when you can’t. Why? He made the deposit long before you were born so He knows what you’re capable of achieving. This is the reason why having a personal relationship with Him is very vital. The Bible records that Jesus usually withdrew by himself to pray and spend some alone time with the father. Through fellowship, you’ll be guided, strenghtened and your confidence in Him will grow. The Lord longs to give you the true vision of who you are in Christ.

Don’t allow your potential to remain a potential, turn it into something productive. You are not useless, you are useful but you can’t get much done if you don’t believe that you can. Remember, you can do all things through Christ who strengthens you.

Don’t Stop Because You Stumbled

It’s 6 months into 2019 and I’ve been taking stock. One of my goals this year was to do away with abandoned projects. I’ve had my share of them and I wanted to do something about it.

It was a cycle of having a fantastic idea, starting out and dropping it just as quickly and the major reason was that I didn’t like it when things didn’t fall into place as nicely as I imagined they would. It makes me smile as I realize the error in thinking that these unexpected detours were indications that I shouldn’t proceed with these projects. That is just not how it works.

Limitations, resistance, hindrances, mountains, oppositions, they all point to one fact of life which is that there are no platters waiting to serve you what you think or feel you deserve. If you want to achieve anything, you’ve got to get up and go after it with rescilience.

It doesn’t matter how small or big the project may be, get ready to face some level of opposition. It won’t be everyday that things will go as planned but they are all just temporary tests to see how prepared you are.

One fine morning, ( Luke 8 22 – 25) Jesus told his disciples that they were going to the other side. His ministry was thriving as people were being touched and transformed through his teaching and workings of miracles. It was time though to expand his reach, more people awaited him on the other side of the sea and he was also willing to minister to them. So this fine day, Jesus and his disciples got into a boat and headed out but the waves and the wind decided on this same day to dance wildly and display fierce acrobatics which automatically meant that their mission to minister was being threatened.

It’s not difficult to imagine what would have happened if they had all given in to the fear and helplessness that was about to swallow them up as a result of the storm. Everything did go well though, because Jesus, informed by his disciples of impending disaster, got up and rebuked the wind and calm returned.

There’s glory on the other side, achievements waiting to be attained but a lot depends on your attitude towards challenges. Sometimes, it’s not a question of the fierceness of the storm but your determination to keep going.

Personally, what was holding me back was how I interpreted challenges. This year, instead of complaining and feeling sorry for myself, I choose to use these stumbling blocks as steadying rocks to hold as I work my way to the top. Here are somethings I’ve been doing to stay on track and keep going;

  1. The Bible says ‘ If you fail under pressure, your strenght is too small.’ ( Proverbs 24 : 10) so I pray for God to increase my strength and help me to keep going.
  2. I read inspirational books, devotionals and articles. I also reflect on success stories of people who inspire me. Stories of people like Barack Obama and Joyce Meyer remind me that success is a melting pot of trials and triumphs.
  3. I take a break from it all so I can clear my head and get a fresh perspective.

Live Beyond The Bubble

Simple Ways To Touch Lives Everyday.

Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfil the law of Christ. Galatians 6: 2

I used to think that Northeast was so far away that I could not be touched by anything that was happening there. Many times, when I read about cases of extreme violence in states like Zamfara or Borno as a result of the activities of the insurgents, I’d shudder in fear or sympathize with those who had been affected or who still lived there, but those feelings didn’t run deep primarily because I don’t live there,and I didn’t have any close friends or relatives who did. All that has changed with news that a very close loved one will be moving to that region, Adamawa state to be precise, for work related reasons.

Now, Northeast that used to be ‘ so far away’ has become close, very close to my heart. News coming from Yola, in particular or the north in general, captures my attention and I pray about the place more. Prior to this, I felt I was just living my life and minding my business but it was just a mask of indifference.

All this has taught me a huge lesson about life and love. Oceans and vast lands; languages and cultures give definition to who we are but at the core of it all, we are all one. Isn’t that the message Jesus preached ? Love for mankind regardless of race or creed.

In error, we use our differences to create bubbles and we try our best to ensure that nothing or no one bursts our bubbles. But a life meaningfully lived cannot exist in a bubble, we are to reach out to one another and help as much and as often as is needed. The Bible tells us to bear one another’s burdens and so fulfil the law of Christ. The true foundation of the Christian faith is love.

Our prayer life also says a lot about who we are and how much of God’s love we are willing to share. You don’t have to wait for something to happen to you directly before you feel the need to pray about it. If it has happened or is happening to someone, pray for the person regardless of whether you know them or not. Your prayers may seem like a drop in the ocean but it does make a difference, a huge difference because God is constantly seeking intercessors. It was Abraham’s intercessory prayers on behalf of his nephew that saved Lot and his household, apart from his wife who chose to look back, from being wiped out when God’s wrath descended on Sodom and Gomorrah.

The Bible tells us about the good Samaritan, who, even though he had a destination he wanted to reach, took time out of his busy schedule to care for an injured man he saw lying helpless along the road. He also gave of his resources even though he had never met the man before.

What can you and I do to close the gap and make the world a better place? I once heard a radio presenter say that the most profound way to make each day meaningful is to purposefully decide to put a smile on someone’s face everyday, especially someone who’s not even expecting it. I’m implementing it, so help me God. Near or far, somebody today, needs to feel the love of God and it won’t be right to close our hearts to the needs around us.

Stones And The Message Of Easter

The Life Transforming Message Of Easter

It doesn’t matter how many people hurl condemnation, criticisms at you or revile you, Jesus isn’t one of them. He is so not a stone thrower, he is the lover of your soul.

I don’t know about you but that’s what keeps me going back to Him again and again. What I would do without the all embracing love of Jesus ?Wholesome healing love, never approval based – Just come as you are.

He told Zacchaeus, the fraudulent tax collector, “ Hey, I’m having lunch at your place today, come down immediately. ”

He told the condemned thief on the cross, who had turned to him for mercy and hope; “ Truly I tell you, today you will be with me in paradise. ”

He had a chat with the Samaritan woman, and after their conversation, she left his presence liberated and full of joy because that divine encounter connected her with the grace she needed to forge ahead. He let her know ; “ I know everything about you and your past relationships because of your quest for love but I do not in any way condemn you. ”

“ What do you say Jesus? The angry mob pressed towards Him, questioning angrily. Pick up a stone and join us. Man, we have proof, she was caught in the very act. Look at her, just look at the mess she is. ” Instead of standing up to join her accusers, he stooped down; rather than being quick to judge, he wrote on the ground.

….“ All right, but let the one who has never sinned throw the first stone! ” John 8 : 7

I wonder what was going through her mind as she stood, surrounded by very angry and vengeful people. Each holding large rocks, ready to hurl them in exchange for her blood – her life. I imagine myself standing there, what would have been going through my mind? “ It’s over Oris, say your last prayer. ” When Jesus comes on the scene though, he turns what seems like a sad ending into a wonderful beginning. See! I’m doing all things new. ( Revelations 21:4 ). He not only made every one of her accusers drop their stones, he gave her a new lease of life.

“ How could she have done that ” ? I simply cannot believe she would have done so and so. ” That’s what we do to each other, hurting, judging and refusing to forgive. Forgetting that only God has the right to ask such questions but he chooses not to. He came to bind up not tear down. He came to set free, not cast into prison. “ I’m here with love in my heart not stones. ”

That’s the simple essence of Easter – Love that is so perfect and unfailing, it seems to good to be true. How can one so holy and perfect love someone like me? He gave up His life for us and by doing that, restored hope, faith and abundant life to mankind. Jesus lovingly took all our sin, pain and infirmities and nailed them all on the cross. It wasn’t easy but it was worth it.

Recently someone I truly loved hurt me so much. I literally felt the pain in my heart. Felt ? That’s not true, I still feel the pain so much so that I don’t even know how else to pray about it besides , “ Jesus please take this pain away. ”

As I write this post though, I feel an outpouring of God’s love. How can I expect perfect love from a human as I? Forgiveness is easier when you remember that you’re also human. The Bible tells us to forgive others because He also forgives us. Oh! the healing power of love, we love Him because He first loved us. That’s what Easter is about, a celebration of true love. Happy Easter everyone!

What does Easter mean to you?

4 Tips To Push Through Self Doubt

How to rise above self doubt so you can fulfil your calling.

Can I make it work ?

Do I have what it takes ?

Will my voice be heard?

YES YOU CAN TO ALL OF THE ABOVE !

If you’re passionate about fulfilling your calling, then always be ready to be your number one cheerleader. I want to share four tips I know will help anytime discouragement sets in and you begin to doubt your ability to push through and make success happen.

YOU ARE LOADED

I’m talking about the deposits of Promise and Potential ; Treasure and Talents you were born with. God did not make a mistake when He put them in you and it’s time to use them for the benefit of mankind. It also simply means that you have what it takes, in fact, all it takes to do what He’s called you to do. This silences all doubts about your ability to perform. What do you have? What can you do today with what you have? If you keep thinking about what you don’t have, you won’t be able to get much done. Appreciate what you have, get to work and watch it multiply.

DON’T LOOK BACK

God’s call is about your future not your past, so don’t allow anything or anyone pull you back from behind. If your past was an issue, God wouldn’t have called you. It’s not about your past but your potential. Looking back on your mistakes and regrets is very draining so please shake it off. Keep your focus on the wonderful future that is yours through faith in Christ. Any woman who has fulfilled her calling will tell you that questions about your ability to deliver will arise. What’s most important is that you have your answers ready – Faith filled answers. Approach your calling always from the perspective of faith, let the past go and never give up.

NEVER BE INTIMIDATED

When you come across a stunning website, or read about someone achieving fantastic feats, choose to be inspired rather than intimidated by their success stories. Remember that it’s not about what you can do but what God can do through you. In fact be secure enough to celebrate them and wish them well. As you do that, you are watering the ground for your own increase and success. There’s something about offense and envy that stifles creativity or productivity. It’s their time to shine and so will you.

DON’T DELAY, DECIDE !

I encourage you to press through the barriers of self doubt. Take steps everyday and watch how you will make giant strides because truly, all giant strides begin with a step. Decide today that you’re going to do something everyday to push and birth greatness. Continuous delay will build a wall of resistance in your heart and it can even make you turn away from your calling totally, leaving you unfulfilled. Decide that you’re going to do something everyday to push and birth greatness. The steps you start with may seem little but as you take it, your confidence will build up, and you’ll be to accomplish more and more.

Choose faith over fear

How To Choose Faith Over Fear

Quit letting fear get in the way of living a more joyful and purposeful life.

Truth be told, this topic isn’t new but it’s still a much needed lesson because even though most of us know not to give in to fear, it still manages to creep up on us and have it’s way in the most devastating of ways.

Fear is an emotion we all feel and that’s okay because it can act as a signal to back off from certain people or situations that are dangerous but what is not okay is when we LIVE in fear, as in set up shop there.

It stops us when we should be moving forward.

It’s the reason we procrastinate or hide.

What could be more paralyzing?

Don’t get me wrong, facing our fears can be pretty difficult but if were going g to be honest here, the reason why we refuse to take the bull by the horns is not always because it’s difficult but because it’s uncomfortable. There’s just something comforting about not confronting, but the down side is that it’s so self limiting.

Looking Unto Jesus The Author And Finisher Of Our Faith…..Hebrews 12 : 2

Peter achieved an amazing feat when he actually walked on water, but that was only because he fixed his gaze on Jesus. As soon as Peter shifted his focus to the billowing wind and stormy sea, he started to drown but thank God he didn’t because Jesus quickly reached out and saved him. We are bombarded daily with news or situations that attempt to shift our focus here and there but the question is, Are you going to hold on to faith and stay afloat or sink with fear?

When I Am Afraid, I Will Put My Trust In You. Psalm 56 : 3

If you don’t want to go through life running and hiding and then regretting that you hid and ran, then you will need to be courageous. Sometimes you will never know what’s around the corner until you make that turn. Courage is going ahead to get the job done even when you feel scared or uncertain. As you take steps of faith, fear retreats.

The LORD Himself Goes Before You And Will Be With You; He Will Never Leave You Nor Forsake You. Do Not Be Afraid; Do Not Be Discouraged. Deuteronomy 31 : 8

Here lies the key to victory over fear – The consciousness that God is with you always. There’s something so reassuring about the abiding presence of God. David put it this way; ” Though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil for you are with me “. He courageously confronted and defeated Goliath because he knew who he was and whose he was. I’m yet to find anyone who adopted David’s formula and failed. Put your confidence in God because He’s with you every step of the way. Everyone and everything may fail but His saving grace is unfailing.

DO THIS: Take Daily steps Of Faith And Watch Fear Retreat.

Write your personal vision

Simple Ways You Can Use Your Vision Optimally

I used to think a vision was something you wrote down, prayed over and kept safely like some very sentimental memento, now I know better. Having a personal vision may get you started, but going back to it as often as you can will keep you going – You’ve Got To Put It In Writing !

This is because the journey to the actualization of your dreams will not always be smooth. When you encounter bumps on the road, your vision will serve as a reminder of the need to keep going. Studies have shown that when you write things down, you’re more likely to remember and act on them. When everything seems hazy such that you don’t even know why you do what you do, going through your vision will also renew your clarity and keep you on track. Those words will scream at you ” Don’t Give Up !”

You’re also likely to be more disciplined and focused when you know what you want and where you are headed in life. You’ve got to be careful that your voice is not drowned out by the voices of others or you may find yourself dumping your own course and taking up the course of another person because theirs suddenly seems more attractive. The Bible puts it this way : Without prophetic vision people abandon restraint, but those who obey the law are happy. Proverbs 29 : 18.

For the vision is yet for an appointed time, but at the end it shall speak, and not lie. Though it tarry, wait for it, because it will surely come, it will not tarry. Habakkuk 2 : 3

Tweak or review your vision to reflect changes like growth, new experiences or even a new perspective and as days turn into years, never become impatient to the point of turning your back on your purpose.

I know of many who use vision boards, which is a combination of words, images and photos that describe very clearly the future you desire – which is what a personal vision simply is – A Picture Of Your Desired Future. Images are said to stir up emotions and resonate on a deeper level. Whichever you choose, the general rule is to keep it concise, simple but exciting. Look at it, read it everyday ! What better way to motivate yourself – Your vision is your divine energy booster, revitalizing you and spurring you to action.